Here are 7 Love Questions To Ask Your Partner

1. When did you fall in love with me - It's always nice to know the exact moment your partner fell in love with you. It can really get your heart racing like mad to hear your partner describe his or her feelings at the exact moment of falling in love.

2. What is the thing your partner loves the most about you - You may find out that a certain body part drives your partner wild and you would have never known about it. It can really get you to feel sexy to know this. This is a great love question to ask your partner.

3. Did your partner like you instantly - A lot of people have a first impression of their partner which wasn't so hot, and only later did they start to like them. It's really fun to know how far your partner's impression of you changed with the time you spent together.

4. If you had a lot of money, where would we go on vacation - It's nice to fantasize about going on a long romantic vacation together with your partner and to dream about a time when you both become rich, and who knows? Perhaps some day it will be true.

5. What is your major dream - This question is a great way to really know the love of your life. Knowing your partner's dreams is knowing them deeply.

6. Have you ever lied to me and if so, why? - Don't worry if you find out that your partner told you a small lie at the beginning of your relationship. Use this question to get a clean slate from now on.

7. Do you see us together in another year, 3 years, 5 or so? - Don't ask this question right at the beginning of the relationship to avoid stressing your partner out, but once you're steady, it's nice to know how your partner feels about a future with you.

Characteristics of Healthy Relationships

1. Each person allows for the individuality of each partner within the relationship.
2. Experiencing both oneness with and separateness from their partner. Other relationships are seen as no threat.
3. Bringing out the best qualities in their partner.
4. Each partner has the ability to accept endings, if necessary.
5. Experiencing openness to change and exploration both in the individual and in the relationship.
6. Inviting growth in their partner.
7. Experiencing true intimacy in the relationship physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually.
8. Feeling the freedom to ask honestly for what they want.
9. Being able to experience giving and receiving in the same manner.
10. Not attempting to control or change the other person.
11. Encouraging self-sufficiency of others. Adults don't need each other in a dependent fashion. They simply want to be with each other.
12. Accepting limitations of self and partner.
13. Not attempting to seek unconditional love in relationships. This type of love is really parental love. Parents accept any behavior from a child and will still love and accept them. Adults demand to be treated with dignity in order to stay in a relationship.
14. Able to accept commitment.
15. Each person having a high self-esteem.
16. Trusting the memory of the beloved, enjoying solitude.
17. Expressing feelings spontaneously.
18. Welcoming closeness, risking vulnerability.
19. Able to care with detachment. They don't feel responsible for each other.
20. Affirming equality and personal power of self and their partner.

Thinking positively can lead to optimism

Thinking positively can lead to optimism!

The trick is to catch yourself in the act of being pessimistic and change your thinking. This might not come easily, but it's very doable. One way we can train our brain to start thinking more positively is through affirmations.

Affirmations are positive phrases we say to ourselves. Phrases like, "I can become an optimist," for a relevant example, are affirmations. Here are a few more examples:

• No matter what happens, I can bounce back.
• I am a strong, competent person.
• I am beautiful.
• People love me.
• I do excellent work.
• I am successful.
• Everyone has setbacks and I can overcome them.
• If I work hard, I'll get good grades.
• I love myself.

Repeating phrases such as these to ourselves can actually have an impact. You'll find that if you practice affirming with optimistic, confident phrases, your brain will start building new neural pathways. These pathways will start to lend themselves towards positive, rather than negative, thoughts.

A Positive Attitude

FRIENDSHIP IS NOT FREE; IT MUST BE EARNED!

We should try to do these things better:
1. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
2. Talk in the interest ranges of the things that people
treasure most when talking to them.
3. Talk to people about themselves and recognize
their importance.
4. Respect other people’s good judgment and avoid
arguments.
5. Never tell anyone they are wrong, we all will
rationalize to the point of thinking we are
unequivocally right.
6. We should criticize ourselves before other people
have a chance to; if you are wrong, admit it!
7. Tread softly, you will go farther.
8. We should try to let our friends feel as though they
have excelled us at some time or another.
9. Let others do a great deal more of the talking.
10. Figure out why others think as they do; look at it
from their viewpoint.
11. Show compassion to others (this is yearned for).
12. Treat people with respect, dignity, honesty, truth-
fulness and willingness; they will generally
emulate those feelings.
13. Challenge others to do something better, never force them.
14. Call attention to mistakes indirectly (don’t broadcast).
15. Make difficulties seem easy to conquer.
16. Praise minutest improvements; and inspire hidden treasures in others.
17. Be friendly.
18. Force yourself to smile! (you will.)
19. Consider other’s good points.
20. Make others want to follow your suggestions.
21. Always appreciate people’s time.
22. Be interested in everyone you meet.
23. Always remember, good manners are made up of petty sacrifices.
24. Remember names; a person’s name is truly the most treasured phrase to that person’s ears. Use the I.R.A principles to help remember name:
25. Try saying this three (3) times, "Act enthusiastic and you’ll be enthusiastic", it works.
26. Perfect yourself first, then worry about everyone else.