What Women Really Want - From a Man

Men and women are so different when it comes to relationships. "I'll never understand women!" How many times have we heard that from men! Many men are fed up with women that nag and complain or are moody. How would the man feel if they knew that they are the cause and the angry woman is the affect! "But I've done nothing wrong!" Shout the men, "she's just crazy, I do love her can't she see that!"

I want to talk to the women just for a moment.

How many times do you ask your man to do something and it doesn't happen? Do feel that you just can't trust him to do what you ask?

How many times do you wish he would do or say something that makes you feel good without being prompted from you? You know you're not the most beautiful woman in the world but you just want to know you're beautiful in his eyes.

How many times does your man let you down and you have to take control? Do you wish he would just be a man! Sometimes you just want to feel like a woman and be looked after... just sometimes!

How many times do you drop hints with a vain hope that your man will pick up on these signals. Can he not see what you are saying, it is so obvious.

How does all this make you feel? Yes I know, frustrating isn't it?

Now I want to talk to the men.

Does your partner behave in a way you just don't get?

Do you know there is something wrong but you don't understand what it is?

Do you get so frustrated because she just does not make sense, you then argue and that just makes it worse.

I am going to tell you now that women do not think about relationships the way that you do! When you understand what is really happening within her, you will make your life easier and create a brilliant relationship, isn't that what you want? After all, you do love her. Why doesn't she get that?

She is after good emotions that you can help her create. When she is complaining, nagging, or going silent on you, she is giving you a message. You have done something that means to her that she cannot trust you. These little feelings build up in her and before you know it, she has found 20 small displays from you that equal you cannot be trusted and now she is angry.

You do one more thing wrong and your in trouble! To you these are trivial and mean nothing, to her it is now proof! Without trust, she cannot feel secure and it is security that she is after and fighting for. These displays that irritate you have good underlying intentions; she just wants the relationship to work.

Security, security, security! Women crave this from a man and this is your key to success. What she wants is to know that you will always be there no matter what! You have to prove it not just with words but also by actions, continuous actions. She wants to know you will be there for her even if she screams at you, becomes unreasonable, and does not make sense! Well to you anyway! She wants you to be a man because that will help her feel like a woman. When she was growing up, she had a vision of the perfect man, one that would sweep her off her feet and look after her until the day she dies. This is a secure feeling and she craves for it!

When you help her feel like a woman she will stop at nothing to make you feel like a man, this is fantastic for your relationship and is what you are both after.

Top 10 Ways to Satisfy Her

1. Make it Sexy

Satisfy her psychologically by boosting her confidence and making her feel sexy. Keep your relationship fresh by flirting. She likes to feel sexy. She wants to be desired and chased. Give a sly smile and wink. Show her that she still does it for you. Whisper in her ear the ways she turns you on. Build her sexiness confidence, then suggest some actions that you find especially sexy...

2. Touch Her

Satisfy her skin with affectionate touch and sensual caressing. Whether it's part of foreplay or simply a little PDA, she enjoys feeling your touch. Men are generally less touchy feeling than ladies. Indulge her need for touch with hugs, snuggles, kisses, hand holding, caressing etc.

3. Write a Love Note

Satisfy her questioning mind. Let her know the reasons you love her. Tell her what you admire about her and all the reasons you fell for her. This is a sentimental gift that she can read over and over again. Try making a top 10, 50 or even 100 reasons list. It can be juicy and romantic, or light hearted and fun. Affirm her best qualities and share your heartfelt feelings. Let her know why she is the perfect match for you. She's sure to melt at this lasting romantic gesture.

4. Compliment Her

Satisfy her by increasing her physical confidence. In a day and age where sex sells, we are bombarded by amazing looking women on TV, in magazines, and on the internet. With such amazing competition, women can feel slightly inadequate. Let her know the things you love about her. Be sincere, she knows she is not perfect, but she wants to know that you are attracted to her.

5. Flowers, Chocolates, and Teddy Bear

Satisfy her emotionally with romantic gestures. The traditional flowers, chocolates and teddy bears will make her feel special, and soften her up. If you want to do something less predictable, get creative or put your own spin on some of these romantic gestures. A good rule of thumb is- the more you give, the more you get...

6. Massage

Satisfy her tense and tight muscles. Start with her feet and work your way up, or with her scalp and ease your way down. Your touch will not simply relax her. Touch is stimulating and energizing. Many massages have turned in to foreplay and stimulated some steamy lovin. Which just goes to show that one good deed, deserves another.

7. Jewelry

Satisfy her material desires. The old saying goes "diamonds, that'll shut her up". It doesn't have to be diamonds thought. Ladies love jewelry. One piece of jewelry is almost always the solution for any relationship problem. A piece of jewelry is worth a thousand words; I'm sorry, I love you, I screwed up, Let's work it out, Just because...

8. Spice It Up

Satisfy her senses. Add some variety to your intimate times together. Share your fantasies (or part of them) with each other and make them come true. If she is comfortable add some adult accessories to your love making. Experiment and share. Find out what really satisfies her...

9. Help Her with Housework

Satisfy her needs so she has energy to satisfy yours. As the popular book title goes "Sex starts in the Kitchen". Many women think it is hot when a man cooks or cleans. It shows a sensitive side, that you are in tune with practical matters, and that you are willing to do whatever it takes to get to dessert...

10. Take Your Time

Satisfy her slowly and sensually. Although men are ready anytime, anyplace, most women are not ready at the drop of a dime. We've all heard men are like microwaves, women are like slow cookers. Slow things down and increase your foreplay. Play sensual games or experiment with sensual oils. Make your loving last longer.

How To Wear A Bra With Style

Just because you wear a bra every day doesn't mean you know how to put one on correctly. If you put on your bra by hooking it underneath your breasts and spinning it around so that the closure is in the back, you're putting on your bra incorrectly.

According to the experts at , the correct method of getting into your brassier is as follows:

1. Adjust the straps to the maximum length.
2. Lean forward into the cups and rest your breasts into the supports.
3. Reach behind to hook the bra on the middle hooks of the closure.
4. Put the straps on your shoulders.
5. Position your breast in the cup by slipping a hand into the cup and lifting the breast while aligning the underwire on your ribcage along the natural crease of your breast to prevent pinching of the breast tissue.
6. Tighten the straps so that they support the breasts lightly without cutting into the skin or putting too much strain on the shoulders.
7. Adjust the straps every time you put on a bra.

Morning sex for a healthier you

NOW we have the perfect excuse to get down to some steamy sex in the morning – it’s good for us.

That’s because sex uses every muscle group in the body and gives the heart and lungs a high-octane aerobic work-out.

It burns around 300 calories an hour.

And a good session at least three times a week boosts the heart, halving the risk of a heart attack or stroke, a study at Queen’s University in Belfast has discovered.

They say regular sex also boosts circulation and keeps down blood pressure.

Sex twice a week is the perfect COLD CURE as it boosts IgA – the immune system’s first line of defence, according to a study in New Scientist.

But don’t overdo it – sex more than three times a week LOWERS our defences.

Moments before orgasm, levels of the feelgood hormone oxytocin surge and flood the body with powerful endorphins.

These natural painkillers help ease everything from arthritis to migraine.

A steamy session also means we feel less stressed as it inhibits production of the hormone cortisol.

And, because it provides a calorie-burning work-out and helps maintain a healthy weight, it will reduce your risk of diabetes too.

An American study of 300 sexually active women whose partners did not use condoms found they were less likely to have depression.

Researchers think that is because they absorb the hormone prostaglandin, which is only found in sperm.

But do not try this if you are not in a stable relationship – a sexually transmitted infection is a recipe for depression.

An orgasm will release a surge of oestrogen, which can relieve the pain of PMS.

Researchers at Yale School of Medicine believe it could also help prevent endometriosis – a painful condition where the tissue which should line the womb grows in other parts of the pelvis.

Apart from the benefits of the work-out, sex boosts the production of testosterone.

This hormone is associated with stronger bones and muscles so may help fend off osteoporosis.

Sex also increases the output of oestrogen and other hormones that make the hair shine and skin glow.

And, according to NHS Direct, “if you are worried about wrinkles – orgasms even help prevent frown lines deepening”.

Hug, Hug Me Do

Why do women want to be hugged? Now there’s a real puzzler.

For such a simple gesture, hugging sure does need a lot of demystifyin’. And while men often wonder about one aspect in particular - why on EARTH hugs are so important to women - these same women, ever conscious of the unidirectional nature of their need, prefer to examine it in every. single. possible. way.

How to ask a boy for a hug (hold out your arms, and if he asks what you’re doing, reply: “I want a hug!”*), and how to do that without embarrassing yourself (hint: get a wing man).

Their knowledge extends to boyfriends (How do you get your boyfriend to hug you? Stand there with a really cute look on your face, like you’re expecting something from him… If he doesn’t hug you, cry. If he still doesn’t hug you, dump him) and husbands (How do I hug my husband? Start with a beer and just let him know you’re there); the shy (How do you give a real loving hug if you’re shy? Start slow) and the passionate (How do you hug passionately? Really mean it when you hug).

(* If he doesn’t ask, assume he thinks you’re impersonating Superman. Escape the ensuing awkward moment by telling him you’re practicing for the upcoming comic books convention. And then try to escape that awkward moment.)

Part 2: Hug protocol

Hugs are harmless, right? A gentle expression of support or comfort or affection. So are they always appropriate? The Wise Ones say… it depends.

For instance, what does it mean when a 30-year-old woman hugs a 14-year-old boy a lot, and should it be happening? (unless she’s family, probably not). Should you hug a guy after you’ve broken up with him and it’s time for him to move out? (sure. You’ve spent a part of your life together with good memories and it’s a tough decision to make; you will surely miss each other).

Even if the hug is appropriate, the logistics might not be (chuckle chuckle…). If you’re, say, 5 feet tall and the person you’re hugging is 5′8″, where do you put your arms?

The protocol is strangely silent about the ideal way to hug a guy around his friends and what to do if a girl sees her boyfriend hugging another girl and gets mad. Maybe you have some ideas of your own.

Part 3: Five things you always wanted to know about hugging

1. How can you avoid makeup stains? Use a translucent powder to set foundation; it will help keep it from coming off on white shirts during a hug.
2. Why do dogs jump at people when they hug? The dog’s jealous. Make it a group hug.
3. Why do people rub or pat your back when they hug you? Since you asked… they rub because they care, and they pat because they’re uncomfortable.
4. Can you become pregnant if you hug a guy? Yes, but it would be a coincidence. In other words, not because you hugged him. In other words… no way. But you knew that.
5. When is Hug Day? January 21. But hugs are great 24/7/365.

IMPRESSION REPETITION ASSOCIATION

(What do they look like) (Repeat their names 5 times) (what do they do)
1. Try to exercise a little sympathy, tolerance and kindness; it goes a lot further than a short fuse.
2. Learn the difference between appreciation and flattery; one is from the heart, the other is from the teeth.
3. Accept the fact that everyone is superior to you in one way or another, and learn from that trait.
4. When not engaged in some definite problem-solving, most people think of themselves 95% of the time. If we could cut it to 50%, the results
would be dramatic.
5. Why should people be interested in you and me, unless we are first interested in them?
6. We are all interested in what we want; be a little different, be interested in what the other person wants and needs (get the other person’s point of view and see things from his angle as well as your own. (Be interested in helping others, not only yourself.)
7. Try to do things without ulterior motives.
8. If we do things that require time, energy, unselfishness and thoughtfulness, we will make many friends.
9. The ability to listen is rarer than almost any other trait. (Listen and learn.)
10. This is an old one- "do unto others as you would have them do unto you; we all know who wrote that one.
11. Do unto others as they would have you do unto them.
12. When dealing with people, use little phrases like, "I’m sorry to trouble you", "would you be so kind as to", "Won’t you please", "Would you mind", "Thank you", they are the hallmark of good breeding.
13. Be wiser than other people if you can, but not tell them so.

Unhealthy relationships

We've all known someone who's been unhappy with their romantic relationship. Yet they stay rooted, glued to the status quo despite feeling miserable. Reasons can range from guilt and fear to family or financial commitments.

But there might be an even more compelling reason for leaving than simple ennui — your health.

Two recent studies on relationships and health have shown that sticking it out in an unhappy union can actually make you sick. The effects on your wellbeing can range from general, persistent poor health right through to serious medical conditions such as heart disease.

Dating Games

Dating games: As far as we're concerned they’re part of every relationship, so get used to them. Of course, some dating games are just harmless ploys used to uncover information about a potential partner, while others are selfish attempts to manipulate and subjugate. There are two ways to look at the issue of playing dating games in the relationship world: Either identify and learn how to react or do nothing and get continually played by the women in your life. We want to address the former approach, with a special emphasis on why girls play dating games and how you can easily turn them around and use them to your advantage.

Hard to get

You know this one: She comes across as completely ambivalent about any romantic possibilities with you, yet makes sure to say just enough to suggest she’s actually up for it. Keep in mind that the girl who plays hard to get does it because she can afford to. She has any number of interested suitors and she wants to see how badly each of them wants her. It’s one of the most common dating games around, but that doesn’t mean you should be fooled by it.

Teasing

She tantalizingly hints at sexual episodes and then retracts them when the time comes to get down to business. This dating game is nothing more than a means to gauge your level of interest or to remain in control of a blossoming relationship. She wants to be the one who dictates the pace of things, and why shouldn’t you let her believe that’s the case?

Inspiring jealousy

In this dating game, she flirts hard with other men right in front of you, making it abundantly clear that she is not yet yours to possess. She might do this to make you squirm or she might want to see if you’re the type of guy who gives up at the first sign of trouble. Either way, she plays this dating game to provoke a reaction from you, and you need to make sure that your reaction says one thing: I’m no sucker.

Jumping through hoops

When a woman plays the "jumping through hoops" dating game, she actually has the calculated nerve to put you through a series of trials in order to see how far you’ll go for her. She makes ludicrous and whimsical requests like asking you to go to the shop and get her a pack of Skittles (and then pick out the green ones when you get home). While you’re out, she might even phone one of her friends to tell her how tight she’s got you wrapped around her little finger. Don’t let this dating game happen -- ever.