Here are 7 Love Questions To Ask Your Partner

1. When did you fall in love with me - It's always nice to know the exact moment your partner fell in love with you. It can really get your heart racing like mad to hear your partner describe his or her feelings at the exact moment of falling in love.

2. What is the thing your partner loves the most about you - You may find out that a certain body part drives your partner wild and you would have never known about it. It can really get you to feel sexy to know this. This is a great love question to ask your partner.

3. Did your partner like you instantly - A lot of people have a first impression of their partner which wasn't so hot, and only later did they start to like them. It's really fun to know how far your partner's impression of you changed with the time you spent together.

4. If you had a lot of money, where would we go on vacation - It's nice to fantasize about going on a long romantic vacation together with your partner and to dream about a time when you both become rich, and who knows? Perhaps some day it will be true.

5. What is your major dream - This question is a great way to really know the love of your life. Knowing your partner's dreams is knowing them deeply.

6. Have you ever lied to me and if so, why? - Don't worry if you find out that your partner told you a small lie at the beginning of your relationship. Use this question to get a clean slate from now on.

7. Do you see us together in another year, 3 years, 5 or so? - Don't ask this question right at the beginning of the relationship to avoid stressing your partner out, but once you're steady, it's nice to know how your partner feels about a future with you.

Your Partner's Toes And Wanting More

Do you know just how it easy it is for a man or woman to get frustrated with their sex life and go elsewhere looking for satisfaction? Let me tell you, it is very easy! You may love your partner with all your heart, but if the sexual passion is not there, it just won't last long. I have found that the book titled Curl Your Toes "A Couples Guide To Breathtaking Sex" to be one of the best I have found on improving your sex life.

It is so frustrating to lie beside your partner in bed and thinking that if you have sex, it will just be the same old boring sex you have been having for years. There are many books and articles out there on improving one's sex life--some are good, some are useless, and then there are some that are GREAT!! Curl Your Toes "A Couples Guide to Breathtaking Sex" is one of those GREAT books! It will change your life--you and your partner will be very spoiled! I was truly amazed at some of the methods in this book--things I had never dreamed of and what's really amazing is...They Work!! Read for yourself and see exactly what I mean when I say you don't have to settle for boring anymore! I know you will not be disappointed--I sure wasn't!

So, go ahead! What are you waiting for? Read, learn, and have fun putting it all into practice!!

Characteristics of Healthy Relationships

1. Each person allows for the individuality of each partner within the relationship.
2. Experiencing both oneness with and separateness from their partner. Other relationships are seen as no threat.
3. Bringing out the best qualities in their partner.
4. Each partner has the ability to accept endings, if necessary.
5. Experiencing openness to change and exploration both in the individual and in the relationship.
6. Inviting growth in their partner.
7. Experiencing true intimacy in the relationship physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually.
8. Feeling the freedom to ask honestly for what they want.
9. Being able to experience giving and receiving in the same manner.
10. Not attempting to control or change the other person.
11. Encouraging self-sufficiency of others. Adults don't need each other in a dependent fashion. They simply want to be with each other.
12. Accepting limitations of self and partner.
13. Not attempting to seek unconditional love in relationships. This type of love is really parental love. Parents accept any behavior from a child and will still love and accept them. Adults demand to be treated with dignity in order to stay in a relationship.
14. Able to accept commitment.
15. Each person having a high self-esteem.
16. Trusting the memory of the beloved, enjoying solitude.
17. Expressing feelings spontaneously.
18. Welcoming closeness, risking vulnerability.
19. Able to care with detachment. They don't feel responsible for each other.
20. Affirming equality and personal power of self and their partner.

A Positive Attitude

FRIENDSHIP IS NOT FREE; IT MUST BE EARNED!

We should try to do these things better:
1. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
2. Talk in the interest ranges of the things that people
treasure most when talking to them.
3. Talk to people about themselves and recognize
their importance.
4. Respect other people’s good judgment and avoid
arguments.
5. Never tell anyone they are wrong, we all will
rationalize to the point of thinking we are
unequivocally right.
6. We should criticize ourselves before other people
have a chance to; if you are wrong, admit it!
7. Tread softly, you will go farther.
8. We should try to let our friends feel as though they
have excelled us at some time or another.
9. Let others do a great deal more of the talking.
10. Figure out why others think as they do; look at it
from their viewpoint.
11. Show compassion to others (this is yearned for).
12. Treat people with respect, dignity, honesty, truth-
fulness and willingness; they will generally
emulate those feelings.
13. Challenge others to do something better, never force them.
14. Call attention to mistakes indirectly (don’t broadcast).
15. Make difficulties seem easy to conquer.
16. Praise minutest improvements; and inspire hidden treasures in others.
17. Be friendly.
18. Force yourself to smile! (you will.)
19. Consider other’s good points.
20. Make others want to follow your suggestions.
21. Always appreciate people’s time.
22. Be interested in everyone you meet.
23. Always remember, good manners are made up of petty sacrifices.
24. Remember names; a person’s name is truly the most treasured phrase to that person’s ears. Use the I.R.A principles to help remember name:
25. Try saying this three (3) times, "Act enthusiastic and you’ll be enthusiastic", it works.
26. Perfect yourself first, then worry about everyone else.

Ways to Learn to Love Yourself

Loving myself isn't something I'm very good at. It takes hard work to look in the mirror and like what I see. It's difficult for me to enjoy who I am. Low self esteem has been something I've struggled with all my life. I have, however, found ways to combat it. I'd like to share these with you in hopes that it will not only enrich your lives, but it might help me a little in turn.

Make lists

Make a list of things about yourself you like. I know this is difficult at first, but it's imperative to identify the things about yourself you like. Here's an example list:

I like myself because...

* I am caring.
* I am kind.
* I am hardworking.
* I like cats.
* I'm passionate about things.
* I'm capable of loving deeply.
* I have cute hair.
* I have pretty eyes.
* I'm a good writer.

Again, this isn't easy at first. I recommend starting with lists of things you like. For example, I like cats, reading, walking, the color pink, etc. If you really like the things you write down, those things make up parts of your personality. You can like yourself just for liking those things, just like you might like someone else for having similar likes.

Sexual Statistics

A businessman boards a flight and is lucky enough to be seated next to an absolutely gorgeous woman. They exchange brief hellos and he notices she is reading a manual about sexual statistics. He asks her about it and she replies:

"This is a very interesting book about sexual statistics. It identifies that American Indians have the longest average penis and Polish men have the biggest average diameter. By the way, my name is Jill. What's yours?"

He coolly replies, "Tonto Kawalski, nice to meet you."

How to say I love you

So, here’s a true and pathetic story—with a happy ending, not to worry.
Way back, when I first started dating my now long-term beau, he left a message one afternoon on my voicemail, which ended with: “Gotta go. I love yyyyy — ummmmm — errrrrrr. Have a nice day.”
Yes, my beau had started to say “I love you”—then stopped abruptly. His subconscious, it seemed, wanted to say those words. But for some reason he couldn’t get them out—not even after five months of exclusive dating.
I found this especially troublesome since my beau’s speech impediment was not my dating norm. My last ex had swiftly said “I love you” — after a mere three weeks of dating — and then he couldn’t stop blurting it thereafter. I’d say: “We need more toilet paper.” He’d respond: “I love you!” But despite his words, my ex’s daily treatment of me didn’t communicate love as much as the desire to make me his, his, his (talk about jealous types!).
Possibly the most important vocabulary lesson to be learned about the words “I love you” is this: Your actions must always be in sync with these words—or they become null and void!
In my current beau’s case, I fully felt his love expressed daily through his actions. He was always clipping articles for me he knew I’d like. Recharging my cell phone at night. Bringing me chicken soup when I was sick. And yet saying this simple three-syllable phrase “I love you” remained a big tongue-twister for him.
Once I walked into the bathroom while he was applying his shaving cream.
“Are you trying to see what you’d look like with a big white beard?” I teased.
“Yes,” he replied, “This is what I will look like when I’m 75 and with a beard—and I hope I’m facing you then, too.”
My beau seemed to be emanating “I love you” at me. So, why couldn’t he just come out and say it? It seemed as if his subconscious wanted to tell me these words — hence why he told me “I love yyyyy —” …Right?
So I asked him bluntly. He answered honestly.
His definition of “I love you” meant, “I promise to never leave you (and might even want to marry you some day) — but the last woman I loved, I married — and that relationship was a total train wreck!”
The happy ending news from all this? Although it took longer than I expected for my beau to say “I love you,” when he finally did say it, those words meant far more to me. With all this in mind, here are some tips for saying those three little (but so big!) words.

1. Don’t rush to take that “I love you” out of the box—because it’s hard to get it back into the box after it’s blurted. Be sure you really mean it when you say it.


2. Recognize some people take longer than others to say “I love you”—and usually these people are “male” people. In general, women take longer to get ready for parties. Men take longer to get ready for relationships. And it’s not good to rush either along.


3. After you’ve said “I love you,” continue to share out loud the specific traits and habits that you love. Don’t just coast on this generic phrase or you will chew all the flavor out of it.


4. If you’re wanting to hear “I love you” and it’s not a-coming, it might not be for lack of love, but out of fear. Engage your partner in a conversation about what these words mean for each of you. It’s a great opportunity to talk about your fears and long-term desires—and who knows, it might get those words jumpstarted.


5. Don’t say your first “I love you” during a time of intensity—be that either making love or making war. If you say it during sex, you may just be swept up in temporary passion. And if you say it during a fight, you might only be doing so to gain control. Ironically, the more neutral the time and setting in which you say your first “I love you,” the more impactful it will feel.