What Women Really Want - From a Man

Men and women are so different when it comes to relationships. "I'll never understand women!" How many times have we heard that from men! Many men are fed up with women that nag and complain or are moody. How would the man feel if they knew that they are the cause and the angry woman is the affect! "But I've done nothing wrong!" Shout the men, "she's just crazy, I do love her can't she see that!"

I want to talk to the women just for a moment.

How many times do you ask your man to do something and it doesn't happen? Do feel that you just can't trust him to do what you ask?

How many times do you wish he would do or say something that makes you feel good without being prompted from you? You know you're not the most beautiful woman in the world but you just want to know you're beautiful in his eyes.

How many times does your man let you down and you have to take control? Do you wish he would just be a man! Sometimes you just want to feel like a woman and be looked after... just sometimes!

How many times do you drop hints with a vain hope that your man will pick up on these signals. Can he not see what you are saying, it is so obvious.

How does all this make you feel? Yes I know, frustrating isn't it?

Now I want to talk to the men.

Does your partner behave in a way you just don't get?

Do you know there is something wrong but you don't understand what it is?

Do you get so frustrated because she just does not make sense, you then argue and that just makes it worse.

I am going to tell you now that women do not think about relationships the way that you do! When you understand what is really happening within her, you will make your life easier and create a brilliant relationship, isn't that what you want? After all, you do love her. Why doesn't she get that?

She is after good emotions that you can help her create. When she is complaining, nagging, or going silent on you, she is giving you a message. You have done something that means to her that she cannot trust you. These little feelings build up in her and before you know it, she has found 20 small displays from you that equal you cannot be trusted and now she is angry.

You do one more thing wrong and your in trouble! To you these are trivial and mean nothing, to her it is now proof! Without trust, she cannot feel secure and it is security that she is after and fighting for. These displays that irritate you have good underlying intentions; she just wants the relationship to work.

Security, security, security! Women crave this from a man and this is your key to success. What she wants is to know that you will always be there no matter what! You have to prove it not just with words but also by actions, continuous actions. She wants to know you will be there for her even if she screams at you, becomes unreasonable, and does not make sense! Well to you anyway! She wants you to be a man because that will help her feel like a woman. When she was growing up, she had a vision of the perfect man, one that would sweep her off her feet and look after her until the day she dies. This is a secure feeling and she craves for it!

When you help her feel like a woman she will stop at nothing to make you feel like a man, this is fantastic for your relationship and is what you are both after.

I wanna hold your hand

Hand-holding signifies closeness and a sense of appreciation for your partner and relationship. This emotion can be triggered by, say, a walk in a beautiful location or witnessing a special event like fireworks or a celebration such as a wedding.

Let the mood move you. Take your partner's hand in yours, entwine your fingers and give their hand a little affectionate squeeze, just to remind them that you're there and there's no place else you'd rather be.

Perfectly acceptable any time and any place, including in front of future parents-in-law or at church, taking your partner's hand in yours has a timeless charm that, far from repelling the general public, actually evokes feelings of admiration and longing.

Some folk don't like having their hand held in public. Guys, particularly, can feel emasculated by such a "girly" act, preferring to drape a big, strong arm around their lady's shoulder. Same, but different.

How Can newly married Please his Wife?

Well first off, congratulations on your marriage! Hopefully with my help, your honeymoon will be one unforgettable sexual excursion! If you really want to satisfy your woman, you have to make sure you take the time to pleasure her every fantasy! You should start off slow and romantic, and gradually work your way to foreplay. As a very sexually active woman myself, I know I love when my man gives me all the attention and licks me from head to toe!

You want to tease her until she is begging for your long shaft inside of her! As far as how long it takes before you ejaculate; try changing positions whenever you feel like you’re about to blow your load. You can also consider masturbating before intercourse to increase your stamina! Good luck, and write back anytime!

IMPRESSION REPETITION ASSOCIATION

(What do they look like) (Repeat their names 5 times) (what do they do)
1. Try to exercise a little sympathy, tolerance and kindness; it goes a lot further than a short fuse.
2. Learn the difference between appreciation and flattery; one is from the heart, the other is from the teeth.
3. Accept the fact that everyone is superior to you in one way or another, and learn from that trait.
4. When not engaged in some definite problem-solving, most people think of themselves 95% of the time. If we could cut it to 50%, the results
would be dramatic.
5. Why should people be interested in you and me, unless we are first interested in them?
6. We are all interested in what we want; be a little different, be interested in what the other person wants and needs (get the other person’s point of view and see things from his angle as well as your own. (Be interested in helping others, not only yourself.)
7. Try to do things without ulterior motives.
8. If we do things that require time, energy, unselfishness and thoughtfulness, we will make many friends.
9. The ability to listen is rarer than almost any other trait. (Listen and learn.)
10. This is an old one- "do unto others as you would have them do unto you; we all know who wrote that one.
11. Do unto others as they would have you do unto them.
12. When dealing with people, use little phrases like, "I’m sorry to trouble you", "would you be so kind as to", "Won’t you please", "Would you mind", "Thank you", they are the hallmark of good breeding.
13. Be wiser than other people if you can, but not tell them so.

Ways to Learn to Love Yourself

Loving myself isn't something I'm very good at. It takes hard work to look in the mirror and like what I see. It's difficult for me to enjoy who I am. Low self esteem has been something I've struggled with all my life. I have, however, found ways to combat it. I'd like to share these with you in hopes that it will not only enrich your lives, but it might help me a little in turn.

Make lists

Make a list of things about yourself you like. I know this is difficult at first, but it's imperative to identify the things about yourself you like. Here's an example list:

I like myself because...

* I am caring.
* I am kind.
* I am hardworking.
* I like cats.
* I'm passionate about things.
* I'm capable of loving deeply.
* I have cute hair.
* I have pretty eyes.
* I'm a good writer.

Again, this isn't easy at first. I recommend starting with lists of things you like. For example, I like cats, reading, walking, the color pink, etc. If you really like the things you write down, those things make up parts of your personality. You can like yourself just for liking those things, just like you might like someone else for having similar likes.

Sexual Statistics

A businessman boards a flight and is lucky enough to be seated next to an absolutely gorgeous woman. They exchange brief hellos and he notices she is reading a manual about sexual statistics. He asks her about it and she replies:

"This is a very interesting book about sexual statistics. It identifies that American Indians have the longest average penis and Polish men have the biggest average diameter. By the way, my name is Jill. What's yours?"

He coolly replies, "Tonto Kawalski, nice to meet you."

Getting over an Affair

Ques:- How do I get over an affair I should not have had in the first place? He is married and so am I. I see him all the time and the old feelings keep coming back.

Ans:- Find a way to not ever see him again. Move if you have to. I think the healing needs to cost you something so you will never be tempted to do this again. Whatever it takes. Do your spouses know about this affair? You need to be in marriage counseling with your husband to find out what you two have that can make for a solid marriage and work on it. Strike the Original Match by Swindoll is a place to start. Get Five Languages of Love and decide what your love language is so you and your husband can meet each other's needs. You get over the affair by wiping the slate clean.

Modern Love

Q: I've met a man who's 37 and he's quite interested in me. I like him but have no clue as to why he wants someone so much older. Some of my friends have mentioned that they've also experienced this situation; they get attention from younger men but rarely from those our age. I'm divorced and, ideally, I would like to find a long-term relationship again. Should I encourage him, or would it likely be a waste of time? He's never been married.

Are you afraid his attraction is only a boyish fantasy? It may be. But I find that younger men are often genuinely attracted to an older woman's self-acceptance and enthusiasm about life. Take comfort in knowing that you're part of a trend. In a recent survey AARP found that one third of older single women who are dating have a younger partner.

As your friends are noticing, women enjoy attention from younger men for the same reasons that many people seek partners who are at least a decade older or younger: it can be refreshing to spend time with someone who isn't facing the same fears, challenges, and hang-ups as you are. This motivation is also in the mix when a middle-aged man dates a younger woman, even though society often chides this as a purely physical pursuit.

Who are the women you think your young admirer should date? Most are either frantic about their biological clocks or single parents trying to establish careers. If he doesn't want children and doesn't want to be immersed in those concerns, what stops you from being his ideal choice?

You know the obvious downside. You grew up with Howdy Doody and he grew up with Scooby-Doo. But that's not why you wrote to me. So I'll answer the questions you wanted to ask but didn't.

First, will he enjoy his Mrs. Robinson fantasy for a while and then drop you for a younger hottie? In my experience, no. In fact, he's at equal risk of having you break his heart.

Second, will he run you ragged? I doubt it. In the couples I see with big age differences, the woman almost always has more energy than the man does.

Third, if your relationship crashes, will people think you're a fool and say, "We told you so"? Maybe. I don't know your neighbors. But you can't escape gossip and avoid all risk and still enjoy living. And, frankly, life is one big country music song, so why pretend it isn't?

Instead of fretting about the rest of your life, answer this: are you interested in this guy? If so, proceed with pleasure. Encourage him. As long as you're both rational and both know all the usual caveats that apply in dating (regarding lifestyles, values, income, etc.), there's no reason to run.

If you must think long-term, remember that women live longer than men do. You two may be more in sync than he'd care to imagine.