What Women Really Want - From a Man

Men and women are so different when it comes to relationships. "I'll never understand women!" How many times have we heard that from men! Many men are fed up with women that nag and complain or are moody. How would the man feel if they knew that they are the cause and the angry woman is the affect! "But I've done nothing wrong!" Shout the men, "she's just crazy, I do love her can't she see that!"

I want to talk to the women just for a moment.

How many times do you ask your man to do something and it doesn't happen? Do feel that you just can't trust him to do what you ask?

How many times do you wish he would do or say something that makes you feel good without being prompted from you? You know you're not the most beautiful woman in the world but you just want to know you're beautiful in his eyes.

How many times does your man let you down and you have to take control? Do you wish he would just be a man! Sometimes you just want to feel like a woman and be looked after... just sometimes!

How many times do you drop hints with a vain hope that your man will pick up on these signals. Can he not see what you are saying, it is so obvious.

How does all this make you feel? Yes I know, frustrating isn't it?

Now I want to talk to the men.

Does your partner behave in a way you just don't get?

Do you know there is something wrong but you don't understand what it is?

Do you get so frustrated because she just does not make sense, you then argue and that just makes it worse.

I am going to tell you now that women do not think about relationships the way that you do! When you understand what is really happening within her, you will make your life easier and create a brilliant relationship, isn't that what you want? After all, you do love her. Why doesn't she get that?

She is after good emotions that you can help her create. When she is complaining, nagging, or going silent on you, she is giving you a message. You have done something that means to her that she cannot trust you. These little feelings build up in her and before you know it, she has found 20 small displays from you that equal you cannot be trusted and now she is angry.

You do one more thing wrong and your in trouble! To you these are trivial and mean nothing, to her it is now proof! Without trust, she cannot feel secure and it is security that she is after and fighting for. These displays that irritate you have good underlying intentions; she just wants the relationship to work.

Security, security, security! Women crave this from a man and this is your key to success. What she wants is to know that you will always be there no matter what! You have to prove it not just with words but also by actions, continuous actions. She wants to know you will be there for her even if she screams at you, becomes unreasonable, and does not make sense! Well to you anyway! She wants you to be a man because that will help her feel like a woman. When she was growing up, she had a vision of the perfect man, one that would sweep her off her feet and look after her until the day she dies. This is a secure feeling and she craves for it!

When you help her feel like a woman she will stop at nothing to make you feel like a man, this is fantastic for your relationship and is what you are both after.

How Can newly married Please his Wife?

Well first off, congratulations on your marriage! Hopefully with my help, your honeymoon will be one unforgettable sexual excursion! If you really want to satisfy your woman, you have to make sure you take the time to pleasure her every fantasy! You should start off slow and romantic, and gradually work your way to foreplay. As a very sexually active woman myself, I know I love when my man gives me all the attention and licks me from head to toe!

You want to tease her until she is begging for your long shaft inside of her! As far as how long it takes before you ejaculate; try changing positions whenever you feel like you’re about to blow your load. You can also consider masturbating before intercourse to increase your stamina! Good luck, and write back anytime!

How to Hug

1. Approach the person. Depending on the person's relationship to you, you might want to approach differently:
   • Family Hug: Approach kindly, but not too emotionally.
   • Friend Hug (girls): Approach caringly, sometimes humorously, and smile.
   • Friend Hug (guys): Approach quickly, usually not looking them in the eye.
   • Crush Hug: Approach carefully, but do not seem shy. Smile slightly and perhaps say a caring word or two.
   • Lover Hug: It doesn't matter who starts this; either can make it just as romantic. When approaching, put your hands on their shoulders and look them in the eyes. Say you love them, how much you care for them, and how much you are loving every second with them. Then fall into each other and hug with all your heart.
   
2. Embrace.
   • Family Hug: You can keep talking when hugging; it will not ruin the momentum. Where you place your hands is not important; the hugged won't think it over too much. Press gently; it is not necessary to have head-contact. Stroke your hands quickly across the top of the hugged's back. Smile when letting go.
   • Friend Hug (girls): Close your eyes and think about how much you love your friend when hugging. Press as much as you feel like. (But don't squish!) Do not clap the hugged on the shoulders or such; its too masculine and some girls think you don't like them if you do it the guys' way.
   • Friend Hug (guys): Embrace strongly, and clap each other on the top of your backs. If it's an emotional moment, keep in the hugged position for a brief moment and do not clap each other's backs.
   • Crush Hug: Press the hugged warmly towards you. If you are a man, remember that it is more masculine and more protective to fold your arms under hers. Her arms should be around your neck, and you should be embracing her around the waist. When pressing her against you, you can lift her up a bit, pressing her chest and upper stomach against yours. Keep it in that position for a while, and then let go. Look her in the eyes when you separate and continue the conversation naturally.
   • Lover Hug: 1) Males: Carefully sliding your hands down from her shoulders, put them on her waist and slide them around her lower back. Put your head on her shoulder and press her towards you for as long as you like. If you want to, you can give her a small massage with your hands, and try to warm her. When separating, you can look into her eyes, smile genuinely and, if the situation is fitting, kiss her. 2) Females: Extend your arms toward him and hold them around his neck and shoulders. Lean as close as possible and press your torso against his. In situations of extreme intimacy, interlocking your leg in his is appropriate. Avoid holding your arms below his shoulders and/or embracing strongly and tensely.
3. Don't hug too tightly. The best way to judge how tight or loose to hug is to let whomever your hugging tell you by how hard they squeeze. If they are soft, be soft back; if they like bear hugs and squeeze tightly, do the exact same back (but don't suffocate him/her).
4. Don't be the first to let go. If someone hugs you, they may want a long, loving hug (maybe they are upset or down), so just go along with it and hug them until they let you go. A hug is a great thing and lots of people like them, as they can feel great and greatly improve your mood. However, if both of you have read this, neither of you will let go and you will be forced to continue hugging indefinitely, or simply appear rude. Perhaps you should get someone to pull the two of you apart after several moments.

Smooth talker

How to keep a conversation going

If dating profiles are anything to go by, 'good conversation' is something we rate highly in an ideal mate. So how do you turn stilted small talk into a proper conversation?

Starting a conversation with a member of the opposite sex can be a nerve-wracking experience. Once you've broken the ice, you need to keep the dialogue going, which for some people is ... wait for it ... easier said than done.

If friendly banter is something you struggle with, never fear. Our pointers will help you polish your conversation skills in no time.

Anatomy of a conversation

We've all had a conversation that hasn't exactly gone as we'd have liked. But we can learn from our mistakes. In order to improve your conversation skills, you need to revisit an embarrassing or awkward conversation from your past.

If you had your time again, what would you change? Your tone of voice? The words you used? Keep these things in mind. They are your conversational weaknesses and it is these things you need to work on in order to get your conversation skills up to scratch.

Sealed with a kiss

Why your first kiss is make or break

Have you ever kissed someone you really fancied only to find that after the smooch was over, your feelings towards them had changed? You're not alone, as a new study on kissing reveals.

The kiss off
According to the study of 1041 college students at the University at Albany, 59 percent of men and 66 percent of women admitted that romantic desire for a person had evaporated after a first kiss.

But what happens within the seemingly harmless act of kissing that can turn lust into indifference? Apparently, it's all in his or her kiss.

Unhealthy relationships

We've all known someone who's been unhappy with their romantic relationship. Yet they stay rooted, glued to the status quo despite feeling miserable. Reasons can range from guilt and fear to family or financial commitments.

But there might be an even more compelling reason for leaving than simple ennui — your health.

Two recent studies on relationships and health have shown that sticking it out in an unhappy union can actually make you sick. The effects on your wellbeing can range from general, persistent poor health right through to serious medical conditions such as heart disease.

The crazy way we met

Most of us have those strange almost-met-someone moments: Stuck in rush-hour traffic, you make eyes in the rearview mirror at the cutie behind you… or walking your sister’s dog while she’s out of town, you find the pup, well, strongly drawn to a poodle whose owner is adorable… Often, these incidents don’t lead anywhere, but for some of our lucky readers, they were the start of something very, very good. Read their inspiring stories, and be open to meeting your next honey in a most unusual way.

Sexual Statistics

A businessman boards a flight and is lucky enough to be seated next to an absolutely gorgeous woman. They exchange brief hellos and he notices she is reading a manual about sexual statistics. He asks her about it and she replies:

"This is a very interesting book about sexual statistics. It identifies that American Indians have the longest average penis and Polish men have the biggest average diameter. By the way, my name is Jill. What's yours?"

He coolly replies, "Tonto Kawalski, nice to meet you."

How to say I love you

So, here’s a true and pathetic story—with a happy ending, not to worry.
Way back, when I first started dating my now long-term beau, he left a message one afternoon on my voicemail, which ended with: “Gotta go. I love yyyyy — ummmmm — errrrrrr. Have a nice day.”
Yes, my beau had started to say “I love you”—then stopped abruptly. His subconscious, it seemed, wanted to say those words. But for some reason he couldn’t get them out—not even after five months of exclusive dating.
I found this especially troublesome since my beau’s speech impediment was not my dating norm. My last ex had swiftly said “I love you” — after a mere three weeks of dating — and then he couldn’t stop blurting it thereafter. I’d say: “We need more toilet paper.” He’d respond: “I love you!” But despite his words, my ex’s daily treatment of me didn’t communicate love as much as the desire to make me his, his, his (talk about jealous types!).
Possibly the most important vocabulary lesson to be learned about the words “I love you” is this: Your actions must always be in sync with these words—or they become null and void!
In my current beau’s case, I fully felt his love expressed daily through his actions. He was always clipping articles for me he knew I’d like. Recharging my cell phone at night. Bringing me chicken soup when I was sick. And yet saying this simple three-syllable phrase “I love you” remained a big tongue-twister for him.
Once I walked into the bathroom while he was applying his shaving cream.
“Are you trying to see what you’d look like with a big white beard?” I teased.
“Yes,” he replied, “This is what I will look like when I’m 75 and with a beard—and I hope I’m facing you then, too.”
My beau seemed to be emanating “I love you” at me. So, why couldn’t he just come out and say it? It seemed as if his subconscious wanted to tell me these words — hence why he told me “I love yyyyy —” …Right?
So I asked him bluntly. He answered honestly.
His definition of “I love you” meant, “I promise to never leave you (and might even want to marry you some day) — but the last woman I loved, I married — and that relationship was a total train wreck!”
The happy ending news from all this? Although it took longer than I expected for my beau to say “I love you,” when he finally did say it, those words meant far more to me. With all this in mind, here are some tips for saying those three little (but so big!) words.

1. Don’t rush to take that “I love you” out of the box—because it’s hard to get it back into the box after it’s blurted. Be sure you really mean it when you say it.


2. Recognize some people take longer than others to say “I love you”—and usually these people are “male” people. In general, women take longer to get ready for parties. Men take longer to get ready for relationships. And it’s not good to rush either along.


3. After you’ve said “I love you,” continue to share out loud the specific traits and habits that you love. Don’t just coast on this generic phrase or you will chew all the flavor out of it.


4. If you’re wanting to hear “I love you” and it’s not a-coming, it might not be for lack of love, but out of fear. Engage your partner in a conversation about what these words mean for each of you. It’s a great opportunity to talk about your fears and long-term desires—and who knows, it might get those words jumpstarted.


5. Don’t say your first “I love you” during a time of intensity—be that either making love or making war. If you say it during sex, you may just be swept up in temporary passion. And if you say it during a fight, you might only be doing so to gain control. Ironically, the more neutral the time and setting in which you say your first “I love you,” the more impactful it will feel.

Dating Games

Dating games: As far as we're concerned they’re part of every relationship, so get used to them. Of course, some dating games are just harmless ploys used to uncover information about a potential partner, while others are selfish attempts to manipulate and subjugate. There are two ways to look at the issue of playing dating games in the relationship world: Either identify and learn how to react or do nothing and get continually played by the women in your life. We want to address the former approach, with a special emphasis on why girls play dating games and how you can easily turn them around and use them to your advantage.

Hard to get

You know this one: She comes across as completely ambivalent about any romantic possibilities with you, yet makes sure to say just enough to suggest she’s actually up for it. Keep in mind that the girl who plays hard to get does it because she can afford to. She has any number of interested suitors and she wants to see how badly each of them wants her. It’s one of the most common dating games around, but that doesn’t mean you should be fooled by it.

Teasing

She tantalizingly hints at sexual episodes and then retracts them when the time comes to get down to business. This dating game is nothing more than a means to gauge your level of interest or to remain in control of a blossoming relationship. She wants to be the one who dictates the pace of things, and why shouldn’t you let her believe that’s the case?

Inspiring jealousy

In this dating game, she flirts hard with other men right in front of you, making it abundantly clear that she is not yet yours to possess. She might do this to make you squirm or she might want to see if you’re the type of guy who gives up at the first sign of trouble. Either way, she plays this dating game to provoke a reaction from you, and you need to make sure that your reaction says one thing: I’m no sucker.

Jumping through hoops

When a woman plays the "jumping through hoops" dating game, she actually has the calculated nerve to put you through a series of trials in order to see how far you’ll go for her. She makes ludicrous and whimsical requests like asking you to go to the shop and get her a pack of Skittles (and then pick out the green ones when you get home). While you’re out, she might even phone one of her friends to tell her how tight she’s got you wrapped around her little finger. Don’t let this dating game happen -- ever.

Alternative Cancer Treatments

Cancer is a scary word. If you haven't experienced it firsthand, it's almost certain that you know a family member or a close friend who has. With the many forms that cancer can take, there are a number of treatments that go along with them.

Depending on the type of cancer in question, modern treatments usually include surgery, chemotherapy and radiation. Due to the pain and side effects of these treatments and their related drugs, there has been a surge of interest in learning about other therapies that can be done concurrently. Coined as "complementary" therapies, these techniques aren't to be confused with stand-alone alternative cancer treatments. Instead, they are forms of holistic healing that can improve a cancer patient’s quality of life by focusing on their physical, spiritual and emotional needs.

AskMen.com does not endorse or advocate any of these suggested alternative complementary treatments. They should always be discussed in detail with a medical professional or a certified holistic health practitioner.

Massage therapy

Thermo therapy

Hypnotherapy

Aromatherapy

Modern Love

Q: I've met a man who's 37 and he's quite interested in me. I like him but have no clue as to why he wants someone so much older. Some of my friends have mentioned that they've also experienced this situation; they get attention from younger men but rarely from those our age. I'm divorced and, ideally, I would like to find a long-term relationship again. Should I encourage him, or would it likely be a waste of time? He's never been married.

Are you afraid his attraction is only a boyish fantasy? It may be. But I find that younger men are often genuinely attracted to an older woman's self-acceptance and enthusiasm about life. Take comfort in knowing that you're part of a trend. In a recent survey AARP found that one third of older single women who are dating have a younger partner.

As your friends are noticing, women enjoy attention from younger men for the same reasons that many people seek partners who are at least a decade older or younger: it can be refreshing to spend time with someone who isn't facing the same fears, challenges, and hang-ups as you are. This motivation is also in the mix when a middle-aged man dates a younger woman, even though society often chides this as a purely physical pursuit.

Who are the women you think your young admirer should date? Most are either frantic about their biological clocks or single parents trying to establish careers. If he doesn't want children and doesn't want to be immersed in those concerns, what stops you from being his ideal choice?

You know the obvious downside. You grew up with Howdy Doody and he grew up with Scooby-Doo. But that's not why you wrote to me. So I'll answer the questions you wanted to ask but didn't.

First, will he enjoy his Mrs. Robinson fantasy for a while and then drop you for a younger hottie? In my experience, no. In fact, he's at equal risk of having you break his heart.

Second, will he run you ragged? I doubt it. In the couples I see with big age differences, the woman almost always has more energy than the man does.

Third, if your relationship crashes, will people think you're a fool and say, "We told you so"? Maybe. I don't know your neighbors. But you can't escape gossip and avoid all risk and still enjoy living. And, frankly, life is one big country music song, so why pretend it isn't?

Instead of fretting about the rest of your life, answer this: are you interested in this guy? If so, proceed with pleasure. Encourage him. As long as you're both rational and both know all the usual caveats that apply in dating (regarding lifestyles, values, income, etc.), there's no reason to run.

If you must think long-term, remember that women live longer than men do. You two may be more in sync than he'd care to imagine.

Living Healthy to 100

It was sunrise in the village of Hojancha when Tommy Castillo and I mounted a pair of bikes and whizzed downhill from his pink wooden house into the steamy Costa Rica morning.

Our route took us by the town clinic, past a mechanic where the rhythm of local cowboy music blared into the street from tinny speakers. With truants’ delight, we swooped down another hill past the village school, and from there, the houses thinned out. On one side of the road, buildings gave way to a wall of jungle. The road dipped to where the pavement bridged a creek and continued up a steep incline. Tommy, wearing a white-toothed grin and a Yankees baseball cap, stood up hard on his pedals and pulled ahead of me. I was breathing heavily. Sweat trickled down my back.

Off the main road, our wheels traced parallel ruts past a horse barn and a vegetable garden. The track ended in a clearing with a raised chicken coop, a tin-roofed wooden house, and a woodshed stacked high with split logs. Out front, a woman wearing a bright pink dress, hoop earrings, and carnival beads vigorously swept the jungle floor, sending up a dust cloud. Behind her, a few long golden pencils of light angled through the trees.

Experience Pure Love and Forgiveness

We can spend most of our lives on trivial issues. But Jesus Christ reminds us what really matters and what we really need. Our greatest felt needs are to be loved, forgiven, whole and alive. Do you feel compelled to somehow respond to Jesus’ death on the cross? Do you feel compelled to enter deeper into the experience of Christ’s forgiveness?

That feeling is no accident. It is a divine appointment.

Love. It's what we all want. To be loved is the most amazing thing that can happen to you.

But not just love - unconditional love, pure love. Do you wonder if anyone can love you as you truly are? Why is pure love so hard to find? Maybe it's because we keep looking in all the wrong places.

Maybe you have looked for love in your family. You have tried your whole life to please them and make them happy. But it was never enough.

Maybe you have looked for love in a physical relationship. You tell yourself, "If I share my body, I will feel loved." But you never do.

Maybe you have looked for love in popularity. "If everyone knows me, then I will feel loved and accepted." But that's a game you can't always win, and when you do, you are still lonely.

Where can you go to feel completely accepted? Where can you look to find unconditional love?

There is only one place where love never disappoints. The picture of pure love is found in God. God is love. But how can you know God loves you? How can you see it?

Through Jesus Christ, we see love at its purest. Jesus said, "Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends" (John 15:13). The picture of pure, passionate love is caught in the frame of Jesus loving you while hanging on the cross.

God made His love visible in Christ. And Jesus showed that love is measured not merely by feelings, but by sacrifice.

How can you know pure love? Imagine asking Jesus, "How much do you love me?" He would stretch out His arms, with His nail-pierced hands, and say, "This much."

You can experience His pure love.

8 Ingredients To A Healthy Heart

While it’s easy to get caught up in the aesthetic component of creating a good workout and nutritional program, you really must not overlook the importance of exercise and healthy eating when it comes to maintaining good health. Even more important is ensuring you have a healthy heart because cardiovascular disease is rising at an increasing pace.

While there are certain factors you simply cannot control, such as a genetic predisposition to heart disease, there are some you can and should control. The sooner you start taking measures to prevent heart disease, the better you’ll fair later in life.

That being said, here are the top ingredients you need to keep your ticker working the way it should, as we take a look at the eight ingredients to a healthy heart.

1- Cut back on red meat

2- Up your consumption of dark-colored fruits and vegetables

3- Control your insulin levels

4- Make your own meals

5- Up your soluble fiber content

6- Reduce your cheese intake

7- Drink in moderation

8- Do intense exercise

Mental Health For Men

Mental health for men is being called a silent crisis, a sleeper issue that has crept into the minds of millions. At the heart of the problem are new and emerging pressures for men, stemming from changes in societal dynamics at work, and in family and personal life.

While the concept of mental health for men is nothing new, comparatively, gender-specific health awareness and research have focused predominately on women. Women have the tendency to band together, and they are more vocal and expressive about emotions and other aspects of their mental health. As a result, women seek health care in much greater proportion than men. Men, on the other hand, traditionally shy away from the health-care system, and we are only now starting to understand why that is.

Men tend to view partners and friends as primary health sources. When they do reach a physician, men tend to focus more on physical problems, and are less likely to discuss deeper emotional issues -- particularly if the physician is female. Perhaps most influential are perceptions around male masculinity. As it is seen unmanly to discuss weakness, mental issues become masked and often go undiagnosed.

Recognizing these barriers is only the first step to overcoming illnesses that might be weighing on a man’s mind. Greater understanding of new and emerging mental illnesses for men is equally as important, and hopefully the following will help to raise your awareness.

Ways To Keep Fit And Stay Healthy

You may have heard the expression, “Once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic.” In the same way, you could say “Once a coffee addict, always a coffee addict.”

But before I go any further in telling you my story about coffee and all the whys and hows of quitting it, you should now that now is a good time to quit drinking coffee.

You've been eating mostly well, you eat your fruits and vegetables, you've been reading Frederic's newsletter - but you think, “a little cup of coffee once in a while isn't that bad.” Plus it's good for the mood.

But I'm telling you right now that that cup of coffee, which I'm sure you're enjoying more often than you'd like to admit it, is preventing you from achieving the levels of health you desire.

12 Affordable Ways To Good Health

1 Sleep earlier.
2 Consider vitamin supplementation.
3 Eat more vegetables, cut down on red meat, caffeine, sugar and salt.
4 Never skip breakfast
5 Never eat an incomplete meal.
6 Don’t let yourself go hungry.
7 Exercise, and at the very least, just walk.
8 Don’t stress out.
9 Wash your hands often.
10 Toss the vices.
11 Think twice about joining weight loss programs.
12 Visit your doctor for annual tests.

Masturbation Techniques

Men have been taking care of "business" since the dawn of time, and many have devised strategies to enhance the experience -- somewhat. Without discussing the basics -- the Basic Fist and Basic Thumb and Forefinger, which no doubt you are all well aware of -- let’s delve into some more "advanced" masturbation techniques.

It has to be noted that many men may find it easier, faster and more effective to masturbate instead of putting in the time and effort to enhance their sexual relationship with their lover. Masturbation, however, should not replace a healthy sex life with a partner -- to do so is to lose out on the intimacy of closeness, and the effort and reward of a mutually beneficial relationship.

Studies show that, chemically, masturbating is 400 times less effective at satisfying ones sexual appetite than sex with a partner. Nonetheless, masturbating is certainly a favorite and pleasant pastime of men and women alike, and is a great way to enjoy and learn about yourself.

There are many ways to get yourself off, and with Male Appreciation Day in mind, here are some masturbation techniques you may not have played around with just yet.

Pelvic thrust with wrist

Deep scrotum massageWringing

Butt spread

Milking

Signs You’re A Sex Addict

Sex addiction can involve many different sexual antics; it may be a strong desire to have sex, masturbate, watch porn or flirt. A person is defined as a sex addict when his behavior gets out of control and starts to have a negative impact on his life. These feelings and behaviors cause a great deal of shame, hopelessness and confusion for the sex addict. These feelings are also normally accompanied by denial, despite it being an unmanageable problem in the sex addict's life.

Sexual addiction takes up a great deal of energy, and you know you’re in trouble when your behavior causes relationship breakdowns, job problems, legal issues, and a loss of interest in anything non-sexual. If you suspect you have a problem, read on for some signs that you might be a sex addict.

• You’re leading a double life

• You frequently seek out sexual material

• You’re compromising your personal relationships

• You seek out explicit sexual adventures

• You get into trouble with the law

• You have negative feelings about your behavior